{adoption is} higher math

Did you know that when you adopt, the number of children you have increases, too?

Yep. Cat’s out of the bag. Hope I didn’t ruin it for you.

But that’s what tends to happen when you adopt. You wind up with more kids.
Which leads to a bigger family.

One of the most common comments I get from people is, “I don’t know how you do it. I can’t even handle the (insert number < 4) I’ve got!”

I get it.

I’m sure it looks pretty comical to see the crazy blond lady, flailing around in public with four young children who are circling her like a totem pole.
All talking at once, of course.
All talking very loudly…of course.

I used to be one of those people.

I used to watch moms who had three or more children and think…”I could never do that. I don’t even really want to do that.”

I would thus declare myself the winner (in my head), and move on. (I’ve told you before how much I like to win.)

I realize now that four children is really not that many. I mean, I can’t even make a basketball team out of ‘em, for pete’s sake!

And in Adoption Land, four kiddos is small potatoes. Not that it’s a competition…good grief. But fo reals…I’ve got some pretty cool friends who are juggling WAY more peeps than I am. (Stef, Amie, Sonia, Love…yeah, I’m pointing my fingers at you’s guys)

And just to show me how small potatoes I really am, a family came into church on Sunday (my parent’s church) and took up 3 1/2 rows right in front of me.That would be because they have 21 kids…12 of whom are adopted. Most with some serious special needs.

Didn’t look like the parents were even batting an eye. Or sweaty.
How could this be?
I would be super sweaty.

So it appears that I now have come full circle.

Once again, I look at families who have more than I have and think, “Yikes…I don’t know if I could do that.”

The difference now, however, is that I think (super-secretly to myself), “But perhaps I would like to do that.”

So lemme just spell out this mathematical equation for your convenience. Don’t worry mathematicians…I will show my work.

Family + Adoption = Bigger Family

Family + 2(Adoption) = Even Bigger Family

Family + 3(Adoption)2 = Ginormous Family

You get the picture. (that last one was a good one, I thought)

The good news is that whether or not our family gets any bigger is not up to me anyway. I think I’ll leave the higher math for the Lord.

He’s much smarter than I am.

Kim - December 31, 2011 - 8:11 am

Ah, what a journey. He is SO much better at math than we are. And writing stories! It’s so exciting to see them unfold page by page. Happy New Year!

P.S. 3 1/2 pews?! I would’ve been sweaty AND hyperventilating.

Stefanie - December 31, 2011 - 8:31 am

Oh man, I LOVE this! Love to see how He is growing your heart, too :)
Can’t wait to see what His plans are for your crazy self… I can totally see you with a whole passel of kiddos!

Joy - January 1, 2012 - 8:16 am

Love your blog…and your math!! We are in the process of adopting and hope to have two new little ones in the near future. I also have always looked at large families and questioned my ability to be such a mama. Now, truth be told…I long to be mama of many!! May God richly bless your family in the new year and if it is HIS will…growth of your family:)

Melissa - January 2, 2012 - 7:11 pm

Yep, never thought we’d be a LARGE family. 1 bio kid was perfect; 5 years later, 2 bio kids were just great and we were done! 10 years later and we’ve now brought 2 more home (4 total) waiting on #5 in a few weeks. GOD’s math is so different from ours. But, now I think, 4 is really no big deal and I don’t think 5 will be either. Now, 21, I don’t know about that one!!! Happy New Year! (:

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